In each Own It!! podcast, Nicola and Judith discuss their chosen Business Word Of The Week for that particular week.
Here are their words for Episode 006 of the Own It!! podcast:
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What’s your word of the week then?
Yawn. Nicola, yawn. I find the goal yawn making. I’m so over goals it’s not true. Wayne Dyer, one of my favourite gurus, always recommends a book, I’m not sure who it’s by, it’s called Force Vs. Power. Might even be called Power Vs. Force. Goals are all about force, whereas intentions are about power.
Again it goes back to the topic we had a couple weeks ago about accountability. Are you excited or what? Don’t go through the motions with goals, set intentions that will pull you forward. I think goal is an utterly tedious, quite limiting Coaching 101 type of thing. If one more person brings up the wheel of life I might not be responsible for my actions.
We’ve got to move beyond that. We’ve got to move with the times. We’ve got to see what works. Yes I think goals can work for some people. Yes I’ve read the articles about the people graduating from Harvard that wrote it down and lost it.
The word goal just makes me go, really? Yawn. Sorry. That’s it.
I totally disagree I’m afraid.
Why are we doing this podcast – because we’re Yin and Yang. You are a power force and I am power. That’s the difference and that’s okay. That’s what’s going to come out of this all the time as I said to you in an email the other day. I’m a little bit country, you’re a little bit rock and roll. We’re good. It’s creative tension. I’m glad you like goals and I’m glad that I prefer intentions. It’s just yawn.
Judith Morgan thinks goals are yawn worthy.
Am I going to get a word in edgeways about my opinions on goals?
It was my word of the week, but now that I’ve finished you may address the topic, yes.
Thank you so much. I was the woman who never set goals because I didn’t want to find them again in a drawer and be disappointed with myself. That was the first 40 years of my life not setting goals. As soon as I started setting goals, even though they were probably more like intentions because I didn’t want to get too specific, again in case I disappointed myself, my life started changing dramatically, as you know, because you’ve been friends of mine for much of that time.
I spent the whole day yesterday with my client setting goals. I use a thing called the Vision/Traction Organizer, which comes from a major, major book that I’ve read this year called Traction. I highly recommend it to anyone. It’s a good read; it has lots of case studies in it, so it’s very interesting. What it does is it gets you to – as I said to him yesterday, the sky’s the limit and we’ve got no idea. Let’s just set some – put a stake in the sand. What it gets you to do is set a ten year goal and then a three year goal and then a one year goal and then 90 day goals.
What I did at the beginning of the day, just to backtrack a little bit, what I do at the beginning of the day these days is get a client to set a goal, just pluck it out of the air if they haven’t got any idea, and we put it on the board and leave it there for the rest of the day. What invariably happens by the time we come to do the Vision/Traction Organizer bit is that that goal has got bigger. The whole day works up to the point of “okay let’s set a goal now to leave here with”. Then I bring them back down to earth again by backtracking them from that goal into concrete actions to do in the next 90 days, 30 days, week.
What we realise is, often most of the time, is that that goal got too big, the second goal got too big. Then we work it backwards to something that’s much more realistic and achievable. It now becomes something more exciting than the goal they walked in with and more realistic than the goal they just plucked out of the sky because they’re feeling all up and excited, and turn that goal into concrete actions that need to have been achieved for you to be one third of the way towards your 10 year goal, one tenth the way, one year, one quarter of the way to achieving your one year goal.
I just think it’s – I think in previous episodes we discussed something along the lines of what fuelled my fire and it was simple visual aids. This is a simple way of setting goals that then turn into actions. I just think it’s a structure and a framework that’s very useful. They are not tattooed on your forehead, these goals.
Where I would agree with you in that story is that your client was a man. I am going to contradict myself later on and the man – my client that’s impressed me this week is a man who did it exactly like that, and goals and force as blokey energy. It worked for you and your client yesterday, hooray, but not sold to this woman in pink.
This woman in pink!
My word of the week is connection. The one thing I got out of yesterday was hanging out with my daughter, client coming down, spending the day and having dinner, daughter and client had a drink in one part, the middle of it, together. It was just all a lovely connection. We went to a beautiful restaurant where I love the waitress, sorry the manager. She always impresses. I just felt very connected yesterday to my community and very happy to live here, and really enjoyed the whole thing of being out with real people doing real stuff.
You had your connection with all your last end of term clients call, didn’t you?
I did, yes. It’s another theme of the week.
Funny how those come out isn’t it?
Yes it is. Yes.
What do you think of our Business Words of the Week? What would yours be? Let us know in the comments!